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Anal sex for beginners: what you need to know

This guide will give you the knowledge you need to make your first experience with anal as painless and pleasurable as possible!

Published: November 29, 2022

Author: Admin

Anal sex may still be seen as taboo but it doesn't have to be. While there are many different ways to enjoy anal sex, first-timers should make sure they’re prepared.


A lot of people, both men and women, are curious about anal sex and wondering how to get started. It's a natural curiosity as anal sex is often depicted in porn or talked about in a dirty way. However, anal sex can be enjoyable and doesn't need to be intimidating just relax and enjoy! Here are some things you need to know before trying it yourself. You need to be really relaxed before attempting anal sex.

Warm up

Warming up before anal penetration is the key to good anal sex. The anus doesn't produce as much natural lubrication as a vagina, so it's important that we add a generous amount of water-based lube to make penetration more comfortable. Once the lube is applied, use your fingers and/or toys to stimulate the anus. You can also press one finger gently against the opening. Once you're ready, remove your finger or toy and slowly insert one (or two) fingers inside.

Lube up

Lube is a necessity when it comes to anal sex. When used properly with gentle insertion, lube can make anal sex an orgasmic experience. Using lube with anal sex also has some health benefits. It prevents microtears in the skin that can cause bleeding and makes the initial penetration easier and enjoyable for both. We recommend a water-based lubrication for the best anal experience!

Use a condom

When it comes to anal sex, condoms are vital. Using a condom will help protect you from sexually transmitted infections (STIs) and other diseases. If you're using a latex or polyurethane condom, don't forget to coat it in lubricant first! Condoms just make everything easier for the cleanup and if you decide to shift to vaginal play there is less worry over cross contamination.

Start slow

It can be tempting to jump right in, but it is important to take the time to prepare yourself. Start with some external stimulation and build up the intensity gradually before moving on to penetration. Be sure to use plenty of lubricant as this will help reduce friction and decrease the risk of any pain or uncomfort. The most important thing is to relax and go at a pace that feels comfortable for you.

Incorporate Toys

One of the best ways for anal sex enthusiasts to have safe anal sex is by using sex toys. You can use a toy on your own or with your partner. It also makes anal sex much safer and less painful. Try starting with a smaller toy before moving onto something larger, like a butt plug or dildo. Incorporating toys also gives you the benefit of trying out different sizes and training yourself up to larger sizes. Have a look at our dildo collection to find the right size for you.

More lube…

It's important that you don't try to go at it with just spit because that dries up quickly. If you're having a hard time getting enough lubrication, use a quality silicone-based or water-based lube. Have a look at our range of premium lubricants. Try warming the lube in your hands before applying it to your anus, then reapply as needed. Use lots of lube and have patience, relax and enjoy.

Go at your own pace

It's important to take it slow and build up the pace slowly. Remember, the anus is a sensitive area, you need to massage your way through. The best way to start out is by using one finger and gently massaging the opening of your anus. This is getting repetitive (trust us we know) but it can’t be stressed enough. Be sure to use plenty of lubricant because this will help with any pain that might occur as well as making everything more slippery and enjoyable. As you get more comfortable, two fingers can be used but again, take it slow.

Have fun!

Anal sex is a fun and exciting experience just enjoy yourselves. However, there are some things that you should be aware of before diving into anal play with a partner. No two people's bodies or sensitivities are alike so it's important to communicate openly with your partner about what feels good and what doesn't in order to have the best experience possible. If something hurts, talk about it! Let your partner know where and how they can help.

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